#Horses – and their shoes

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Shoeing a horse at Father’s smithy.

Do kids nowadays have a chance to see how a horse gets new shoes? Or do they experience the special “smell” when the red-hot iron horseshoe is fitted onto the horse’s hooves? Or do they hear the “swish” when the blacksmith places the iron in cold water for a second or two before he places and fits it on onto the horse’s hoves, one at a time, lifted up sometimes by another man, usually an apprentice? Would they even know what a farrier is? Hardly. I remember it well. I know about the ‘swish’. I remember what it smelled like. I remember being afraid the horse would be hurt. How can the glowing iron not hurt? And the long nails with the almost square head that go into the horseshoe to hold it in place? How can the horse stand it? I didn’t realize then that the bottom of the horse’s hooves are something like a very thick callous, or a very thick toe or finger nail of ours, no nerve endings in it. Only once have I seen a horse bucking and I was afraid my dad would get hurt.

Our own horse Lotte was conscripted in 1939. My dad explained ‘the Führer needs her for the war.” I asked, “Can’t he use another horse? Why our Lotte?” Yes, why our Lotte. It wasn’t just our Lotte. There is a short chapter about it in my book “We Don’t Talk About That”.

Gila-First Scool Day

First day at school with a horn of plenty (not!).

Omi-Mutti m. Ingrid - Tuti-Manfred-Christel-Dieter-Gisela - Siegfried

A family outing to the lake. Omi-Mutti m. Ingrid – Tutti-Manfred-Christel-Dieter-Gisela – Siegfried

I could hardly wait to go to school to learn to read, to be independent from Granny reading to me. It was in spring 1940. It was exciting to look forward to the big “School cone” and all the goodies in it. How disappointing to find very little – but then, – even a six year old knew there was a war going on. Pretending to be happy I was fighting tears, – just look at the photo. But soon the summer holidays stretched out for two long months and our cousins from the Island of Rügen came. We played our usual games and were happy to go to the lake with Mom, Granny and Aunt Tutti. She plays a very important role in the book. You’ll meet her again…

Of #Books and #Parrots

A moment between signings

A moment between signings

A BIG thank you to Nanoose Medicine Centre and to Perks Coffee Bar located in Red Gap Centre, Nanoose Bay for stocking all my books and for allowing me to conduct a book signing session there yesterday for copies of  “We Don’t Talk About That”.

Nelson, the blue tailed Australian macaw drops by for a chat

Nelson, the blue tailed Australian macaw drops by for a chat

Thank you too to Nelson, the blue tailed Australian macaw, for coming along to liven up the proceedings.

Book Reading and Signing

On Home Turf

Eyeglasses on Open BookI will be reading selected passages from my book “We Don’t Talk About That” and answering your questions at a Book Reading and Signing event in the Clubhouse at 6738 Dickinson Road, Nanaimo on Wednesday July 16th commencing at 8:00 p.m. We need to know numbers in advance so if you plan to join us please RSVP by leaving a comment in the “comment bubble” above – top right.

A Five Star Review #bookreview

A British author of WW I books has written the following glowing review of “We Don’t Talk About That” after reading the book in 3 days and giving it a 5 star rating on Amazon in the UK.

Bob Pickles (from Amazon.co.uk):

Giselle Roeder’s book is a vital piece of the jigsaw of suffering in World War II (& representative of civilian suffering in all conflicts). It could well have been a story of the tragedy endured by Jews, Gypsies or Polish intelligentsia perpetrated by the Nazis. It is not : it is from the other viewpoint – that of a German family (Pomeranian) caught up in a relentless & ruthless revenge policy endorsed by Stalin himself by rampaging & victorious Russian troops determined to wreak havoc on a nation who so equally ravished their own country & population. Revenge is indeed violently exacted upon the females of all ages by the terrifying & simple phrase “Frau, Komm” . Anyone who knows their history will understand the terror behind these powerful two short words. Not since the Japanese visited their venom on the innocents of Nanking or Manilla has rapine acts of such propensity been perpetrated in so condensed a period or area.
Nonetheless, ‘Gila’ & her family endure, comfort & protect each other through all adversities of starvation & illness, separation & violence in its many forms to seek salvation & safety of a kind in the West Germany of post-war Europe. Gila’s subsequent determination to educate herself & find a satisfying & humanly rewarding career is inspirational to today’s doubting youngsters. If it were not so harrowing, it should be desired reading in schools & given the same historical literary importance as “The Diary of Anne Frank”. To be read alone with a strong drink perhaps – a fine testament to the unquenchable spirit of survival & hope with the help of a few ‘angels’ along the way. My only criticism is the abrupt ending which cries out for the developing story of Gila’s emigration to Canada & adventures & subsequent career & personal life there – we all like a happy ending!
Buy, read and learn the balance of history & why the current campaign supported by Angelina Jolie & others against rape in conflict is such an important but seemingly futile message of hope. “Without hope, we are but grains of sand washed into an ocean of despair”.

Just for the “ell” of it

Google and World Cup

I see that the Google search engine has been busy and managed to catch one of my readers too absorbed in my book to put it aside even for a soccer game – https://www.google.ca/logos/doodles/2014/world-cup-2014-12-5204175918989312.2-hp.gif

If you don’t spot him immediately check out the L of Google. He obviously reaches the end of a chapter.

The family is complete

A proud Gila next to the pram with Christel

A proud Gila next to the pram with Christel

Child # 2 again was to be a boy – but it wasn’t in the cards for my dad. Since it was December and not too far away from Christmas, the new baby was named “Christel”. Granny always said she looked exactly like her dearly departed husband and I could never see it because he had a moustache, she didn’t. Can YOU see it?

The three sisters Gila-Christel-Ingrid

The three sisters Gila-Christel-Ingrid

And then a few years later Ingrid joined the family, again a disappointment for Dad. Finally, in 1944 the last try and again a girl: Edith. She was the baby just by her very existence saved my mother’s life. Now the family was complete.

A last photo of the family – will we ever be together again?

A last photo of the family – will we ever be together again?

Time for me to take a look at this world

Big expectation for my entrance: The heir has to be a boy. The first born is expected to be a boy. The names of my Great Grandfather and my Grandfather, “Friedrich Wilhelm” frightened me and I decided instead to be a girl. At least they picked a name I liked and there was no other girl called “Gisela” in my village. I liked the shortened version even better and listened when someone called “Gila” or “Gillala”.

Gisela summer 1935

A new pram just for me

Siegfried, Lisa and baby Gila

My father’s youngest sister Lisa, who became my “big sis” and baby sitter and one year older cousin Siegfried, my second love, after Dad.

Lisa & Gisela

Maybe this was the reason I always liked geese, alive or crisp out of the oven (we never had turkey!)

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When I was one year old they shaved all my nearly black hair off. Superstition was that I would get really beautiful new hair

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Surprise! I became a blond girl. Do blonds really have more fun?

Charming village life

WWI Memorial and behind it was the pub.

WWI Memorial and behind it was the pub.

During my early life I thought we were quite well off or even rich. After all, there was that box with billions of Marks in a corner of our attic.

We lived like peasants in medieval times, compared to village life today. My feelings must have been triggered by the love and protection our parents gave us, – we never wanted for anything, except perhaps candies, cake or cookies every day, these were just for Sundays. But, we did not know better. We accepted life the way it was. We did not know that water could come out of a faucet on the wall instead of going to the pump outside. We did not know what it would be like to have constant warm water without starting a fire and heating a kettle.

A view over the Stresow Lake where I almost drowned

A view over the Stresow Lake where I almost drowned

We did not know what a toilet within the house would be like because our outhouse had a box under the seat that “things” just fell into. We played tag, we played hide and seek, we skipped rope, we played hopscotch, we played ball against the house wall in a certain sequence with different movements, we played with marbles (the glass ones were very special and were traded carefully), we played with a spinning top and we rolled and ran behind a hoop with a stick. We were kids, in the truest sense of the word. No radio, TV, no texting, no electronics. During winter evenings our parents had more time; it was a time of storytelling, sing-alongs, and board games.

The approximately one-thousand people in our village all lived a similar life. Sunday Church was a time for meeting and talking to the others; the male folks would go to the pub; the women would go and water the flowers on the graves of the dearly departed. There they would chat, and exchange the latest gossip. The big time politics in the cities would not affect this laid-back life. Nobody was divorced and nobody lived “in sin” or had affairs. We also had our “village idiot”. That is a term not acceptable today either, – just as all those other activities have no place in our society anymore. I dare to say all the Stresow families were happy, just like we were.

Breaking News

A lucky escape

Our sister Edith sometime after he supposed drowning

Our sister Edith sometime after her supposed drowning

Here is a piece of my family history of which I was totally unaware until after I had written “We Don’t Talk About That”.

Edith is my youngest sister and was the baby that barely survived our trek on the road to nowhere. She recently celebrated her 70th birthday and when I spoke to her on that occasion I mentioned the fact that my book had just been published. In that conversation she asked if I had included the story of her drowning. This was the first I had ever heard of this tragedy.

My sister Christel escaped from East Germany after me in 1956. As was required by the authorities she surrendered her East German passport pending issuance of a West German one. During this interval she received first a telegram, then a letter, stating that “Edith has drowned, come home immediately”. Without travel documents she was in no position to “go home” but was, quite naturally, most upset to learn of our youngest sister’s demise.

Shortly thereafter my father who was, by now, allowed to leave East Germany because if he failed to return it would be one less pension to be paid went to visit Christel in Hamburg. Christel met him at the train station dressed in black as she was in mourning for Edith. Father asked why on earth she was dressed all in black whereupon she burst into tears and said it was because of Edith’s death. Father was astounded to learn of his youngest daughter’s drowning since he had, only that morning, left her at home. Christel explained about the telegram and showed him the letter. He was able to recognize the writing as that of a neighbour living in the attic suite above my parents’ home and it became evident that this neighbour was a Stasi agent.

The telegram and letter had been a ruse to try to get Christel to return home where she would have faced 30 years imprisonment for having defected to the west. What a lucky escape she had. Why have I never heard about this before? Is this another instance of “We Don’t Talk About That”?

My Family Tree

Family Tree - Mother, Father and four daughters

Family Tree – Mother, Father and four daughters

On purpose I just put the last four generations in this “tree” in order to avoid difficulties in looking at it when reading my book “We Don’t Talk About That”. I hope it will help you to place a particular person within the story. I could have gone further back – or forward for that matter. Going “back” does not add anything of interest now and going forward comes in the sequel of which you can read an excerpt at the end of my present book.