The family is complete

A proud Gila next to the pram with Christel

A proud Gila next to the pram with Christel

Child # 2 again was to be a boy – but it wasn’t in the cards for my dad. Since it was December and not too far away from Christmas, the new baby was named “Christel”. Granny always said she looked exactly like her dearly departed husband and I could never see it because he had a moustache, she didn’t. Can YOU see it?

The three sisters Gila-Christel-Ingrid

The three sisters Gila-Christel-Ingrid

And then a few years later Ingrid joined the family, again a disappointment for Dad. Finally, in 1944 the last try and again a girl: Edith. She was the baby just by her very existence saved my mother’s life. Now the family was complete.

A last photo of the family – will we ever be together again?

A last photo of the family – will we ever be together again?

Time for me to take a look at this world

Big expectation for my entrance: The heir has to be a boy. The first born is expected to be a boy. The names of my Great Grandfather and my Grandfather, “Friedrich Wilhelm” frightened me and I decided instead to be a girl. At least they picked a name I liked and there was no other girl called “Gisela” in my village. I liked the shortened version even better and listened when someone called “Gila” or “Gillala”.

Gisela summer 1935

A new pram just for me

Siegfried, Lisa and baby Gila

My father’s youngest sister Lisa, who became my “big sis” and baby sitter and one year older cousin Siegfried, my second love, after Dad.

Lisa & Gisela

Maybe this was the reason I always liked geese, alive or crisp out of the oven (we never had turkey!)

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When I was one year old they shaved all my nearly black hair off. Superstition was that I would get really beautiful new hair

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Surprise! I became a blond girl. Do blonds really have more fun?

Charming village life

WWI Memorial and behind it was the pub.

WWI Memorial and behind it was the pub.

During my early life I thought we were quite well off or even rich. After all, there was that box with billions of Marks in a corner of our attic.

We lived like peasants in medieval times, compared to village life today. My feelings must have been triggered by the love and protection our parents gave us, – we never wanted for anything, except perhaps candies, cake or cookies every day, these were just for Sundays. But, we did not know better. We accepted life the way it was. We did not know that water could come out of a faucet on the wall instead of going to the pump outside. We did not know what it would be like to have constant warm water without starting a fire and heating a kettle.

A view over the Stresow Lake where I almost drowned

A view over the Stresow Lake where I almost drowned

We did not know what a toilet within the house would be like because our outhouse had a box under the seat that “things” just fell into. We played tag, we played hide and seek, we skipped rope, we played hopscotch, we played ball against the house wall in a certain sequence with different movements, we played with marbles (the glass ones were very special and were traded carefully), we played with a spinning top and we rolled and ran behind a hoop with a stick. We were kids, in the truest sense of the word. No radio, TV, no texting, no electronics. During winter evenings our parents had more time; it was a time of storytelling, sing-alongs, and board games.

The approximately one-thousand people in our village all lived a similar life. Sunday Church was a time for meeting and talking to the others; the male folks would go to the pub; the women would go and water the flowers on the graves of the dearly departed. There they would chat, and exchange the latest gossip. The big time politics in the cities would not affect this laid-back life. Nobody was divorced and nobody lived “in sin” or had affairs. We also had our “village idiot”. That is a term not acceptable today either, – just as all those other activities have no place in our society anymore. I dare to say all the Stresow families were happy, just like we were.

Meet the Players

My Mother’s Family

Grandma and Grandpa

Grandma and Grandpa

Grandmother and Grandfather – my mother’s parents were a very unlikely couple. He was stern, introverted, always sat thinking in his beloved pergola, his chin on the cane he held in his hands. The pergola was attached to the very old city wall that ran through his gardens. Whenever we visited, always on Sundays, that’s where he could be found. Grandma would send us to say “hi” to him, but he never smiled, just looked at us. The pergola was totally covered with green climbers. I remember the sun shining through the leaves and as a child with an active imagination I often thought he was some kind of a saint because of the sun giving him a halo.

Grandmother on the other hand was outgoing. She cooked the best jam I ever tasted. I loved it with a passion. Black currants and plums cooked for a long time. She knew that it was the only thing I wanted when visiting. When the rest of the guests had coffee and cake I would get her home baked bread with this jam! My mouth would start to water before we even left home. She always served it with a big smile to me and stroked my hair. That was as far as expressions or gestures of love ever went.

Grandma with 3 of her daughters, Emmi, Johanna and Elsbeth

Grandma with 3 of her daughters, Emmi, Johanna and Elsbeth

I do not have a photo of all Grandma’s children, my aunts and the only uncle. In this photo taken sometime in the early 1940’s we have my mother Elsbeth (right) with her sisters Johanna (centre) and Emmi (left). The youngest sister Elisabeth (the princess) was always off somewhere and Carl made himself scarce by finding work in the barns.

Chapter 2 continued

Completing Father’s family

Great Grandmother and Fritze

Great Grandmother and Fritze

Great Grandmother had beautiful apples in a bowl. I was three years old and asked her if I could eat one. She smiled and said “Go right ahead my dear.” I couldn’t bite into one; it was hard and kind of slippery. Now she laughed and said “Oh Gila, you can’t eat those, they are not real, they are just for decoration.”

Fritze was born later in her life when no more children were expected. He was the baby brother to my Granny Martha, my dad’s mother. Technically an uncle to my dad he was, in reality, a year younger than his nephew. The boys grew up like brothers. Trouble started when both fell in love with the same girl. The problem caused the break-up of the boy’s relationship with each other. Not only that, it remained an open sore and became another problem for a member if the next generation, – me, – many years later.

Granny as I knew her

Granny as I knew her

Grandfather - Martha's husband

Grandfather – Martha’s husband

Chapter 2 continued

Paternal family continued

My father, Erich (left) with his younger brother Curt

My father, Erich (left) with his younger brother Curt

The first photo is of the two brothers, my father Erich and his younger brother Curt. I especially placed it because I wanted you to see it. It is one of the photos I rescued from the manure pile. The Russians had emptied our big silver bowl containing all the family photos on that unlikely place. It is one of the very few photos that exist of our family before the end of WWII. Of all the ones I rescued, this is in the worst shape. No, we did not have it restored for sentimental reasons.

Paternal Grandmother with her five children. Left to right in rear: Curt, Lisa and Erich. Irene on Granny's right and Gertrud (Tutti) on her left.

Paternal Grandmother with her five children. Left to right in rear: Curt, Lisa and Erich. Irene on Granny’s right and Gertrud (Tutti) on her left.

The second photo shows my Granny with all her living children – but taken about eight years after the war. I have none from the time before 1945.

Stay tuned for one more to complete my paternal family

Meet the Players – Chapter 2

My father’s family, starting with my grandparents:

Friedrich Wilhelm

Friedrich Wilhelm

My grandfather Friedrich Wilhelm married Martha. They had five living children: Gertrud – Erich – Irene – Curt and Lisa. These people play a huge part in my story and I think it is nice for you, my readers, to have a visual image of them. I will start with Grandpa Friedrich Wilhelm, whom I never knew personally. He

Martha

Martha

was only 54 when he died, a few years before I was born. I loved him, knew him through a very large photograph over Granny’s bed and the stories she told. This is an old photo I have of Grandma when she was a young woman and fell in love with a black smith and actually worked very hard all her life. Stay tuned…

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As you read this book you will smile, laugh, cry, shake your head and wonder… maybe even have a sleepless night or two, but in the end you will feel “richer” and thankful to be living where you live.

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A New Year Dawns

Reflections on years past

Towards the end of each year one thinks of ALL the people who only pop up occasionally in our mind during the year. It’s almost as if one is saying “Good Bye” not only to the old year but also to our life lived during that year. It was sad for me because I am very aware of how little is left. So many of my relatives and friends went on that “last trip without return” in 2013. But – that’s how it is. The generations follow each other and when you are little or young you don’t realize how fast it actually happens. A minute ago I was a little girl with braids and now I am writing my memories.
My book “We Don’t Talk About That” is expected to be available in February, 2014.
Photo: Towards the end of the year one thinks of ALL the people who only pop up occassionally in our mind during the year. It's almost as if saying "Good Bye" not only to the old year but also to our life lived during that year. It was sad for me because I am very aware of how little is left. So many of my relatives and friends went on that "last trip without return" in 2013. But - that's how it is. The generations follow each other and when you are little or young you don't realize how fast it actually happens. A minute ago I was a little girl with braids and now I am debating if I should let my hair  go gray...